Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Shaken.

Monday, I was shaken. Shaken in a way that allowed the haunting world of "what if" to shift the ground beneath me and unsettle everything I thought I knew...for a moment.

An old friend from Michigan lost her son in a sledding accident. He was eight. And when my dad called to tell me the news, I dropped my chai tea in the middle of Starbucks and ran out the door. Because I had to get home to my kids.

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I pulled into the driveway to a waving, barefoot Lainey who was sitting cross-legged and carefree in the grass next to Brett. I left the car door open while I ran, breathless, to grab her, hold her, tell her I loved her so very much. And I cried and told Brett about the little boy whose Christmas card I just pulled off my wall two weeks ago. My heart painfully throbbed between hurting for my devastated friend and forcing myself to stand in her shoes--to wonder how one would ever be able to walk again after such heartache.

It consumed me for the rest of the day and well into the night. I whispered his name, prayed for his family, closed my eyes and tried to will peace into their brokenness. You hear of these things on the news. The news--where real little boys who belong to people you know are safe in their homes playing video games and being kissed by their mamas. But I know this family. And the looming truth of Sometimes Bad Things Happen to Good People made me feel stifled and afraid.

I held Lainey's hand a little tighter on the way to the lake that night and broke Nella's crackers into tinier pieces, fingersweeping her mouth between each bite. I thought about every what if that haunts me. And while I knew searching for answers was futile, I questioned and arrived at an opressive emptiness.

We quietly watched our heavy Florida sun sink slowly behind the silhouette of forest at the edge of the lake, and I suddenly felt a peace.

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There will never be answers for so many of life's grandest questions, and the unsettling ground of "what if" will shake us as parents many times along this journey. And while pain does not flow well with what we all have in mind for our future and what we strive every to day to achieve, it is a part of this world and the great catalyst for challenging us to love bigger and better every day.

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We are vulnerable beings. We were born, and we will die. But today, while we breathe, we live deliberately.

"I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, to live so sturdily and Spartan-like as to put to rout all that was not life, to cut a broad swath and shave close, to drive life into a corner, and reduce it to its lowest terms, and if it proved to be mean, why then to get the whole genuine meanness of it, and publish its meanness to the world; or if it were sublime, to know it by experience, and be able to give a true account of it in my next excursion." ~Henry David Thoreau

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Yesterday, I felt so entirely present for my family.

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We read books and ate popsicles, had scavenger hunts in the woods and made art in the driveway.

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Dollar Frames, Target, spraypainted.

It was healing and calming. I drank in every tiny feature of their sweet faces until I could close my eyes and know them by heart. I kissed more, hugged tighter, held longer.

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The rawness of Monday's reality will eventually fade, masking the uncomfortable feeling of vulnerabilty that's gripped me, and allowing myself to sink back into the mundane rhythms of daily life--to-do lists, projects, new shoes, new recipes, play-dates, wants, frustrations. Because our brains are not Bible bookstore plaques and, while it would be nice to be programmed to "Seize the Day" and "Enjoy the Small Things" at every given second, the Unimportant has its place too--balancing the defining moments, softening the blows. We need Unimportant. And, as crazy as it sounds, we need to forget once in awhile--to get lost in silly pleasures like shoes and lipstick, movies and books, planning trips and renovating bathrooms. Together, it brilliantly combines for a good life while we have our breath and allows the moments we do remember the importance of it all--moments like yesterday--to rise effortlessly to the top.

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My Girls, My Loves, My Reminders.

And so we carry on, stirring the Unimportant and the Important together into a rich batter of purpose. I will kiss the tender skin of their eyelids when they are sleeping and whisper everything I want to say they might not understand by night, and in the morning I will butter toast, pour juice and complain about the disastrous state of the kitchen. I will make grocery lists and dog-ear too many pages of things I want in the Anthropologie catalogue, but I will gladly put them down to embrace jammied bodies in my lap and read There's a Mouse About the House one more time. Both worlds are good. Both worlds are needful.

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Wooden Spoon Doll has been named "Grandma Krissy"

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Thank you so much for sharing your favorite latitudes...your happy escapes. And now I want to take a family road trip. I really do enjoy reading them and am inspired by your words too. I'll be working on more ways you can share your voice on this blog in the future.

A few comments you may enjoy:

Abilew-who: In Chicago, we have beautiful Millenium Park, and they have free concerts on Monday nights. You can pack up your kids, your picnic basket, and sit on the lawn while the babies dance - drinking wine with the city lights of Chicago for a backdrop. Lovely I tell you.

Michelle: We've been going to Ebey's Landing on Whidbey Island for years and years. It doesn't matter what kind of weather, we love it any way we can get it! We've picnicked in the car, hiked in the rain, explored the rocky beach and basked in the soft sunlight. When my husband was deployed, he drew a stick figure family walking on a beach and sent it home to the kids with the promise "This is us at Ebey's Landing when I get home".....It was one of the first things we did after he got back. Eight years later that drawing is still on display on the fridge.

GabbyGrace: Shhhh...our secret place...Taylor's Falls where river and trees meets a small quaint town with an old cool bridge and ice cream parlor, 6 inches of snow today still falling and although I am counting down the days to our trip to Hawaii, our 4 year old said it best..."we live in a snow globe mommy!" Yes we do!!!!

Kelsey: My little gem is Veronica's Cafe that overlooks the Cook Inlet and the Mt. Redoubt volcano here in Kenai, Alaska. From Veronica's you can gaze out at the ocean, admire the historical Russian Orthodox church and chapel, watch moose ambling by and eagles soaring overhead, all while eating the best clam chowder you've ever had, or sharing a banana nut muffin with a thirteen month old Bun-Bun girl

Becky: My hometown is Carlsbad, New Mexico where the mountains, plains and desert all meet. Most people think Carlsbad is a podunk kind of a place. But if they'd only look closer they'd see all the small unforgetable oases hidden among the yucca and rock of the desert. We have several small rivers complete with swimming holes that only the locals know about. There is one in particular that is a deep, clear, brillantly blue hole in the middle of no where. It is a great swimming hole and then there is Sitting Bull Falls. Wow, a true oasis. You'll just have to come visit us to see for yourself all the treasures the desert holds! :)



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Thank you again for sharing!

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Being shaken a bit is good from time to time. When things finally settle, they settle more solidly.

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Feeling thankful, aware and in love today. And holding Tom, Yvonne, Connor and all our Michigan friends who know them in our thoughts.

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Althea said...

SO sorry to hear of your friend's loss.
thoughts and prayers are with you.

Gina said...

How devastating. It really makes you take stock of what you have and makes you hug a little tighter and hold on a little longer.

God bless your friend and her family - I hope they can find peace.

SallyGirl said...

"Perhaps they are not stars, but openings in the heavens where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines upon us to let us know they are happy." -Unk.

So very sorry to hear about your friend's loss. I cannot imagine that kind of pain, although I've braved my own share of loss, like many of us.

"...the great catalyst for challenging us to love bigger and better every day." <-- Love that, and you're absolutely right. Sometimes our hearts need to break in order to truly break open.

Ryan said...

May your friends feel the love and support of those around them and from afar. There are few words for such devastation and my heart goes out to them. Thank you for the inspiring words ... we can all use them as we face those very difficult times life throws our way sometimes.

Debby said...

I a so sorry about your friend's son. So sad and so unexpected. I have experienced this a couple of times with friends loosing young children. It can shake your world forever. I am hoping and praying that you keep that peace and somehow his family can survive this and find peace. (((((HUGS))))

MomBE said...

What terrible news to rock you to the core, but such a lovely way to respond. On my knees for your friends.

Lola said...

So sorry to hear about your friend's loss. I could not imagine. I don't want to.
I feel sick just thinking about it. Like you wrote how do they do it? How do you recover?

So many beautiful, amazing pics in this post. The sunrise, Nella's smile, Lainey's sparkly eyes, Nella's delicious toes.
Thank you again for inspiring us, for remind us that being present is what counts, in the important and unimportant parts of life.

XOXO!

melani.fink said...

There are no words Kelle. Just hugs and thankfulness to be alive and able to seize the day and love our loved ones a little more than we did the day before.

Every Little Thing said...

Very sorry to hear about their loss. I'm from Michigan and my family still lives there, so when I'm there this weekend, I'll ask around to see if anyone else knows them. Glad you spent time with your girls as a result, so that something positive can be remembered out of something so tragic.

Cathy said...

Your photos are stunning.

Just the Two of US said...

Praying for your friends! You did exactly what I would have done, love those babies tighter and alittle longer everyday! Your soo blessed

The Hill House said...

So terribly sad to hear about your friend's loss. Thoughts and prayers with her family.

Rik said...

In a moment--even a second, our lives can be changed forever. It is so important to realize the fragility of life and the precious delicacy of those around us. Not to make us live in fear, but to make us fiercely love and focus on what is forever. I am hearing in my head that song I heard on your blog that speaks of "...storms may come..." I remember once being awakened in the middle of the night by friends who had a rare, night-blooming plant and they had offered me the opportunity to enjoy its momentary, fleeting beauty when it finally blossomed. I drove across town in the dark and arrived to step into their side porch and see the flower and smell it's incredible fragrance. It didn't matter that it would be here and gone. What mattered was its exquisite beauty and the sweet perfume shared in its too brief visit to our world. Precious Aiden touches all blessed to know him in such a way. And his family I have nestled in my heart. Pain passes, beauty remains forever.

--Poppa

kmrf said...

Prayer for that dear family. I will do all my mundane chores today with a smile on my face knowing this morning I kissed snuggled and loved on my babies before the bus came.

*mae* said...

So sorry to hear about your friend's loss. After reading your post, I scooped up my sleeping baby from his crib, held him for a period of time and drank in the sweet sounds of his sleep. I cannot imagine life without my son.

My prayers are with your friend's family.

Southern Gal said...

Holding closer, loving longer, feeling more. It's what we were made to do. Thank you for reminding us of that each time you post. Prayers are lifted for your precious friends.

Andrea said...

This post is a great reminder to live every moment fully!

Julie said...

So sorry for your loss. Parents should not bury their children, no matter the age, as I was reminded twice last week.

Tara said...

This makes me want to grab all three of my girls. We have a snowday today. I'm going to savore the day with them, squeeze them, and shower them with kisses. We had a scare last week with one needing an x-ray after a skiing tumble. All is o.k. We are very lucky and thankful. It could have been so much worse. Wishing you and your friend's family prayers and love.

april said...

Your words always provide me with a "cleansing cry" when I read! Theres a brighter twinkle in the heavens over Michigan. Many thoughts and prayers for your Michigan friends and also your family!

stephanie said...

My prayers are with their family, I can't imagine the heartache. It makes me want to hold my little girl a little tighter.

Meredith said...

So sorry to hear of your friends loss. We were shaken Christmas Eve by the sudden death of my father-in-law and after the dust settled I noticed I had an easier time putting down the to-do lists and just being present.

Nella and Lainey are absolutely darling.

curlyqmosaics said...

What an intense post of sadness, followed by the thought of grabbing onto those simple moments and holding onto our babies tight. I truly love reading your blog everyday and the infinite sweetness of your beautiful baby girls. My heart goes out to all of you who knew that precious little boy. May you all find peace in such tragedy...somehow, someday.

The Monkey and Me said...

that sort of thing just takes my breath away. One moment, joy, the next pain. I cannot imagine. I do not know what I would do without my boy. My prayers are with them.

Jess said...

So sorry to hear about your friend's loss. I can't even begin to imagine. When something awful happens that rocks my world, I try to hold onto that feeling of appreciating everything around me. It can be fleeting and I need to do a better job of thinking that way all the time.

Sandy said...

I am so sorry to hear of your friends loss. I will say a prayer that this family is able to heal.
((hugs))

Wally said...

I cried reading your post today. I have an 8 year old son. Praying for your friend and her family during this difficult time..The what-ifs haunt me too but after a bit of that, I have to move forward and live my life..It makes you see things a bit differently and cherish both the important and unimportant..Ha, loved how you talked about that. We need both. Thanks for your blog--love it!

Anne said...

Your friends are in my prayers. As awful as it is, tragedy does make us appreciate our loved ones even more.

Ang said...

Oh Kelle, Thank you so very much for this post. I'm struggling here....I'm desperately looking for that peace you experienced at your sunset. I cant find it...I have nothing. No tears, no comforting words...just a big pit of nothingness right now. My heart is breaking for my friend, and trying desperately to feel something, anything. So, I thank you for your words that I am sure to read over and over again...maybe they will sink in eventually, like so many of your posts have for me. I continue to send my love and prayers to you, old friend. XOXO, Angela Frederick

Party of Nine said...

Praying for your friends and their son. I'm so sorry.

Elisha Pape said...

so sorry to hear about your friend's devastating loss. It is times like these that make us stop and remember what is really important in our lives, and with that said, I am going to go snuggle my little girl right now.

ameliawalton.com said...

Thank you, as always, for sharing your perspective on things. I also had a moment of sweeping my child into my arms on Monday, of breathing him in deep and pressing his cheek to mine as I listened to the tearful voice of a friend telling me that her BFF from college was at the hospital laboring to bring a lifeless baby into the world. Everyone tells us how different everything will be when we have children, but mostly I think people are thinking about grocery store trips and cheerios in the carpet, not about the real change that happens. The real change is how profoundly powerful loving in the way of a mother or father makes you, how we become viciously and deliciously raw from the vulnerability, and how we are able to empathize so much more wholly with those other parental lovers that are in this club with us. Those are the changes that I have experienced over the last 16 months of motherhood, and it is those changes that cause me to cry with and for strangers, to love with such ferocity that it takes my breath away, and to want to try a little harder every single day to love bigger. I'll keep your friend in my heart and send love her way.

Tonya said...

What a beautiful post today, and so so true! I am so sorry for the loss of your friend's little boy : ( I cannot even begin to imagine. They will be in my thoughts and prayers. Life is so precious, your blog is always a beautiful reminder of this.

heather said...

I have those what if days more often then I would like but being a military wife with a husband going over seas to war pretty soon it is always in my mind of "the knock on the door". I am so sorry for you friend and their family, I will be adding them to my prayer list. I will be doing extra hugging and more side walk chalking today.

By the way I love what you did with the frames and I think I will be doing some soon to hold my little mans art, thank you for the great idea :)

Jenn and Blain said...

This happened here - I watched it on the news and my heart broke.

I am so sorry for your friend's loss. It was tragic and here in Michigan, we are mourning his tragic loss. He was too young.

Our prayers are with them, and you, for healing and strength.

Jennifer said...

that is so heartbreaking, I am definitely holding my two closer this morning.

Joy: said...

Thanks for the reminder. Your girls are scrumptious.

Farmgirl Paints said...

Oh that just breaks my heart. I know as a mom that is my biggest fear! You just wonder how in the world they can go on. My prayers are with them as God comforts them during this extremely hard time. Beautiful post Kelle. He uses things like this to make us appreciate all we have a little more sometimes I think.

Jess said...

“A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. But . . . there is no word for a parent who loses a child, that’s how awful the loss is.” (A. Neugeboren)

We will hold a little tighter today too.

I'm so sorry for your friend's loss.

AmyV123 said...

Very sorry to hear of your friends loss, sending thoughts and prayers.

Sandryte said...

There is nothing worse for parents like to loose their child.. Unimaginable pain. I hope these parents feel our prayers and our support. God bless their angel.

jen said...

thoughts and prayers for your friends and family. thanks for the reminder to hold are kiddos close and enjoy the small things in life.

carol said...

When I heard of that tragic accident that happened here in SW MI, I immediately thought of the little boy's family and gave my Grandson an extra hug. I am sadden again to learn he was part of your life. I will give my Grandson another extra hug, for Aiden.

Carol from SW MI

Stacy said...

It is brutally sad to hear of an accident but when you know the person and a young child at that, it's very devastating. A friend of mine lost her 9 year old son almost 3 years ago due to an ATV accident...and you are right - when I found out - I ran home and hugged and kissed my Maddy endlessly because you just never know...god bless Kelle and Family!

aimee said...

You really never realize how precious and how short life can be until you or someone close to you experiences something like this.

Always hold your your family tight and make sure they know how much they are loved so that you never have room for any regrets.

Tonja Keene said...

My heart, thoughts, and prayers are with you and your friends. What a tragic accident. I'll be holding my baby closer today...

"The deeper that sorrow carves into your being the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven?" -- Kahlil Gibran

Kathryn said...

I am so very sorry for your friend and will be praying for them, it is so hard for a friend to lose their child. This happened several years ago to a friend of mine, her 4 year old and I'm still aware of that hollow feeling of when I was told - it was awful. In a few weeks, send her something..anything, she will need those happy little reminders of those who love her when the storm clouds clear and the silence is remaining...it will help her get through.
My heart goes out to you today Kelle, thank you for the ever present reminder to suck the marrow out of life...it is something you will never regret and I'm learning this valuable lesson - thank you!

LittlePaintedPolkaDots said...

What a small world we live in. It's a sad, small world today. We are praying with you for your friends' family. They attend the church we grew up in. Such a heart breaking tradgedy!

Alee said...

Thoughts and prayers for your friends dealing with this difficult loss. You have a beautiful perspective on the situation; I love the focus on balance. Although we have incredibly limited control, we can always love.

Nicki said...

So sad for your friends. My heart goes out to them.

Love to the max every day.

Jes said...

I am keeping you and your friend's family in my prayers. Thank you for all of your blogs. They make me smile every day and appreciate life.

Marisa said...

Prayers for your friend and their family. Thanks for a beautiful post reminding us, once again, of what's really important.

Shelly said...

I'm so sorry for your friends loss. I'm from Michigan and saw the story on the news. No parent should ever have to experience the loss of their child. I will keep them in my prayers.

shadylanestyle said...

Even though I don't know them hearing such a story shakes me to my core. I can not imagine having to bare such pain. May the Lord keep a hand on them and help them through this time.

A Cappelli said...

I am so sorry for your friends' loss. Looking at my 8 year old daughter now who is home on a snow day-I don't want to imagine losing her- or any of my children. But, occasionally the reminder of how delicate, how fleeting life can be- seeps in and it awakens the fiercest love, the most primal desire to protect my cubs- to cherish them- to put all of the important and unimportant into perspective. Again, I am sorry for your friends' loss. They will be in my thoughts.

Callie said...

So very very sorry to hear of the loss of your friends' little boy.

Kate said...

i'm thankful for social media being used for good! spreading words like these across nations only help the power of positive thought go through the roof. we'll be thinking of your michigan friends and praying for peace.

Lisa @ Heaven Sent said...

This post is so beautifully written. You manage to put feelings into words we can grasp and hold onto. Thank you.

I am so sorry for your friends' loss. Just said a prayer for them. I pray they find peace in all of this...if not now, soon.

learning table said...

I am so sorry for your friend's loss. It is such a tragedy to lose a child. My thoughts will be with them as they struggle through this. We've had several tragedies in my family, and these experiences truly do teach you to live each day to its fullest, to cherish each small moment, and to hug your kids a little longer.
:)

Tara said...

My thoughts are with your friends. I cannot imagine a greater loss.

Kate said...

What a terrible loss. I'm hugging my kiddos a little tighter today. Thanks for the reminder. Sending love!

Kristin said...

My heart breaks to hear about such a tragedy. My prayers are with their family and all families who suffer such a loss.

Amy said...

Praying for you and your friend's family! Definitely shaken and picturing every moment I get to share with my family. Precious Moments!!

leemeandthegirls said...

Once again you've turned something heartbreaking and scary into a work a art. Tell me again-- when is your book coming out?????
Praying for your sweet friends and their devastating loss.

Tammy said...

Such a sad thing for your friend. I watched my sister and brother-in-law deal with the loss of their 12 year old daughter. It's been 11 years and they still grieve.

The Fischer Family said...

I am so sorry to hear about your friends' loss. The death of a child is always so particularly painful and senseless. I will be lifting up the family and all who know them today in my prayers! Thank you for the reminder to love fully and never take for granted a moment we have!

Candice said...

So sorry for your loss. Will say a prayer for the family.

Shelly said...

We realize what truly matters, what is really important, and to take time, only time to be present with our family, to cherish each moment, and to celebrate everything, big and small when those catalysts happen.

Your words are so poignant and I need those streams of consciousness that you write.

meredith said...

So sorry for your friends' loss. My son is 7 1/2, so my heart is breaking right with theirs & yours. I can't even begin to imagine.

Thank you for all your beautiful words. They are so comforting & inspring & encouraging. You have a gift & you unselfishly share it. bless you for spreading the love & beauty.

Sara P. said...

Thank you for the reminder to be thankful...which is hard to remember sometimes, and to enjoy these small things.

Jennifer said...

I am so sorry for their loss. And you are right, we do have to take that extra time to just "be" with our family.

Ladd Family said...

I love your words and yes, such a reminder. This life is fleeting and oh, we need to hold our babies when we can.

M said...

A few years ago, I took a 16 hour road trip with family friends to get to a wedding. Thank G-d we made it ok there and back, but there were many near accidents on the way.
Fast forward a year later, the same family took another road trip to a different wedding, again with an extra driver. But this time they got into an accident. Their 9 yr old son was killed, as was the extra driver who came with them.
And that shook me up to the bones.

You never know whats coming. We just gotta keep going the best we can.

Don & Jill said...

Thank you for the word picture that unimportant and important are both required in the batter of purpose for our lives. Last Friday friends of ours lost their daughter who was severely disabled but lived 12 stunning years. It does make your breath catch and think "what if" and then in the next breath, gratitude for what is.

P.S. Totally checking out Elizabeth St.!

Judy said...

Prayin's for your friends that their faith is strong and God's healing power will comfort them. With an adult daughter who is intellectually disabled, your story is a reminder of the joy and love we shared in her youth and continue to share today. Embrace the love, it only grows stronger.

hayley said...

a wise woman once said, "here's the thing. Once you become a parent...once you start feeling a little funny and you buy that pregnancy test...once you see a pink plus sign...once you know it's not just you anymore...well, you automatically carry around, for the rest of your life, an increased likelihood. To have your heart broken. And it's a constant fear that we struggle to put to rest.
And we can choose to be afraid or we can choose to live.
And I choose to live.
Because an 'increased likelihood of having your heart broken' also carries with it an increased likelihood to find yourself the happiest you've ever been in life."

i believe that wise woman was YOU.

susan said...

We will be praying for your friends as well. I am the same way. Our friends lost their 3 year old in a car accident a couple of years ago. He was the same age as Cole I cried and held him for hours. Parents worse nightmare is loosing their children. The saying about once you have a child your heart is walking around is so true. Thank you for the reminder. Holding my babies a little closer today.
Ps. Jason told me last night when I was looking at your blog That Nella really reminded him if Jana at that age. She is so beautiful. Lainey melted me in these pictures as well.
Hugs

Jannice said...

I'm so sorry to hear this news. We can never understand His reasons. I pray that your friends are able to find comfort it this great loss. I pray for the family and friends, like you, for strength and love to give to them at this time. God bless.

Noan said...

Know that you could tumble any second. Then decide what to do with your time. Naomi Shihab Nye

Danielle said...

Holding my children closer today and everyday! So very sorry for their loss! May God bless them and keep them!

leighann said...

That is perhaps my greatest fear...losing a child or even yet dying and leaving my child without a mother. Life is not fair sometimes, but as my husband likes to say, "The fair is a place you buy cotton candy". Ughhh...so frustrating to hear him say that sometimes, but I know it's true. Even though I struggle with it myself, we have to learn to live for the todays and love like today is the last day we have! God Bless!

Kristin said...

Praying for your friends family.

Jen said...

I live in Rochester Hills also..and read about this little boy...My heart goes out to his family....I snuggled my babies extra tight this morning, and I will be sending out extra prayers for your friend and her family. You always seem to find the right words for everything..thank you for reminding us to hug a little longer, be a little more patient, and slow down a little more to "enjoy the small things"...they truly are the only thing that really matters.

((prayers**hugs))

Pam said...

This definitely brought me to tears. An old friend in my hometown lost her 1-year-old to meningitis and the day I heard, I wanted to rush home from work to be with my baby.
For me, it was a strange, physical need. Being a new mother, I didn't recognize this feeling. I needed to feel him against my chest, and once I was home and had him there, ahhhh what a big sigh of relief.
That's my medicine these days.
Praying for your friends.

Cassi said...

It is so true, when someone you know dies it brings up all of the thoughts of whats going to happen when your mom, dad, sister, husband, kids are gone? My Aunt has cancer and has been given a few months and I can't help but think about my mom being gone one day and I can't even imagine how I could go on. Our prayers are with your friends family.

Liz said...

I am so sorry for your friend's loss. We had a similar phone call on Thanksgiving evening. Some of our best friends lost their 2 month old, and just typing those words months later brings tears to my eyes. I have hugged and kissed my babies endlessly thinking of little baby Jack and his short and happy life.

obxbchgrl said...

There are no words that can express the sorrow that rose over me when reading your post. After losing my brother last June, I witnessed the awesome pain and suffering of my parents. I will be praying for peace for all those who know and love your friend and her family.

You are right to hold tight to the Unimportant, to see it for the true beauty it is, and to realize the mixture between Unimportant and Important is the richness that fills our lives.

Run on.

joykerns said...

Kelle and Rik,
I am so sorry for the loss of Aiden. I live in West Michigan and actually saw this story on the News Monday night. It's amazing how much more "real" it becomes when you realize you have a personal connection to the story. Even though I have never met either of you, I feel like you are part of my family and my heart broke even more when I realized that this little boy was special to you both. Words could never make this tragedy better or less painful, but I will be sure to send many prayers your way and in the direction of Aiden's family.

Brenna said...

I will keep your friends in my prayers and hug my kiddos a little tighter today!

Carrie said...

so very sorry to hear of this terrible loss.

The picture of Lainey and Nella on the bed made my heart skip a beat. I am 17 weeks pg with my 2nd baby and this pg is giving me a run gor my money. After a few emotional moments due to early complications and a few scares recently we found out last week that I am having another daughter. The tender moment you captured between these beautiful sisters is something I am so excited for I cannot express in words. Thank you.

Danae said...

Your words are so true, so true. Thanks for the post :)

Kim said...

It's a parent's worse nightmare. I can't imagine the agony of being without my children. A friend of mine lost her three year old when my son was about eight months old and I had the same reaction of holding him and sobbing...for days. It's an awful feeling and even though it's been almost six years, I still think of that little girl often and feel grief. It is by God's grace that we make it safely through each day and there is never an evening that goes by that I don't silently thank him for protecting us for another 24 hours. My heart and prayers go out to your friend...

Christy said...

Such a tragedy. When I hear of something like this happening I always play a "what if" mind game. I am happy to hear that I am not alone in this. I will hug my girls a little tighter tonight.

cathy said...

my heart is heavy for their loss, the words even seem inadequate because they are..

cathy

E-beth said...

I am SOOOOO sorry for your friend's loss... I cannot imagine the pain she is feeling for the loss of her child... I will keep you, your friend and your families in my prayers...

Kylee said...

Keeping your friend in my prayers. May God surround them.

amyuhl said...

Praying for your friends...I will hold my little boy a little closer today!

j210209 said...

I am so sorry to read about your friends loss. It makes you appreciate what you've got. I will definitely hug my son tighter tonight..

Gorgeous photos as always xx

Ana MarĂ­a said...

So sorry to hear about your friends. I have had the same feeling before, that one that can't stopped you from holding your loved ones because you are afraid to lose them.

Erica Baerwald said...

This is one uber-tough reality/tension we live with as parents hey?? How do I hold my baby close, yet with an open hand? There are scary realities out there... but I tell myself not to choke him in my grip, to let life lead him and love him where it may, that he may realize the fullness and depth and all the beauty that this world holds...

Totally thinking of your friends in Michigan and wishing them peace.

Caitlin said...

That's really terrible. But you're right, sometimes it takes us being shaken a bit to dislodge and uncrumple the beautiful things in our lives that have begun to settle into our unawares. Let us all be thankful for the small things in our lives that we take for granted, and for the huge things in our lives that we still sometimes manage to forget how blessed we are to have.

Caitlin

J and A said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your friends loss. It really makes you love what you've got and appreciate every minute. Thanks for turning my outlook around today! :)

Angie said...

I am so sorry for your friend's loss. My three kids and I just held hands and prayed for little Aiden's family.

Isaac, age 6 "Dear Jesus, thank you for today and that we are having a good morning. I pray for Aiden's mommy that she won't be sad today and that they will see him in heaven someday."

Gabe, age 3 "Thank you for today. Thank you for Aiden. Help his mommy and daddy not be sad."

We will continue to pray for his family and friends. For now, on this day I will be present. I won't say "hold on" or "just a minute". I will read extra books, play a little longer, be more patient. I won't mumble under my breath to fill another sippy cup but instead I will thank my Heavenly Father for this snow day and the chance for extra cuddles and lovin's....because there is a mama not so far from here who's heart is breaking and wishing she had that chance just one more time.

Thank you for your words and the reminder.

XOXO,
Angie from Ohio

Formerly known as Frau said...

My heart aches for your friends family such a sad loss. I'm holding my love ones a little tighter today! xo

Kat said...

So incredibly sorry to hear of the loss of a little soul. I'll be saying a prayer for your friend's family and also for you.

PJH said...

Wow, there are so many things I am taking away from this post...especially: "And so we carry on, stirring the Unimportant and the Important together into a rich batter of purpose." I will be thinking of your friends and pray for them to find peace in such a horrible situation. As a mom, sometimes I think we live in "survival mode"--not for ourselves, but for them--how can I keep them safe, and ALIVE, especially in those first months with the "what if's" of SIDS and such. Thank you for voicing my thoughts! <3

Ellie said...

Like you, I always thought "not my family". Until this year. I wrote to you sharing the sadness our family is facing through my cousin. As hard as its been, as awful as I feel, as much as I want to fix it, living through others suffering often makes us better. So each night, I hug a little tighter, thank a little more, and live a little wiser. Prayers for your friend. Prayers for her family to come to her side. Prayers that she'll feel her sons presence each and every day, and her own angel will guide her into healing. Thinking of you Kelle, and your friend. God Bless.

Lara said...

Thank you for sharing your hurt. It helps remind all of us that life and love can be taken away at an instant.
I will be praying for your friends.
Lara

mel said...

i live in MI and I heard about that. I am so sorry that it was someone that you knew. Even still, when you don't know the people, the loss of such a young life is so devastating. It is especially devastating when they were doing something that was supposed to be fun. It is amazing to me in moments of joy and sorrow how the internet can make the world feel smaller. Peace to you and your friends in this time of sorrow.

Lianna said...

I am very sorry to hear about your loss -- your friend's loss. No mother should lose her child. Ever. Your heartbreaking post will stay with me a long time.

I like that you celebrate life, Kelle, and I think this lesson is important for everyone. Years ago,my grandmother lost her eight year old son. He drowned on Mother's Day which I think was more harrowing than any other day. When she spoke of him, the sadness in her eyes always made it seem as if someone I didn't know was talking to me. But the strength in her desire to live fully and in the moment despite the devastation of her heart was amazing. It made me realize how important living is...

MrsMiller07 said...

Praying for your Michigan friends! So sorry for that devastation!

Leah Alexandra said...

This post just shook me to the core. My heart goes out to your friends. My little one is 17 months and this morning, despite the chaos of getting both him and myself up and dressed and out the door, I took a few extra minutes to cuddle him and kiss him and tell him how very much I love him. I'll be praying for your friends!

Leah
www.lovelifeandmommyhood.blogspot.com

Katie Lee said...

I am so sorry to hear of your friends' loss. I will be holding them in my heart today. The loss of a child is the very worst kind of loss.

shell said...

loss of children is so gutwrenching. I may not know your friend or the sweet son she lost but i sit here crying for the ache of a mothers heart. i can't imagine.

Jessica said...

Ugh. Death takes on a new meaning when you have kids. Premature death is even worse. And the death of kids? Well, it brings me to my knees EVERY time. Even when I don't know them. Because I can "imagine" how the parents must feel and it literally makes me sick. I'm from MI. Monday, my husband lost a co-worker who died suddenly while leaving their work parking lot..3 cars behind him. A few years ago one of my best friends lost her 7 mo old baby in a car accident. It forever changed my life..I usually don't include links to my own posts, but here is the post I wrote about how it affected me: http://itrocks2bmom.com/2010/09/24/love-your-littles/ I will pray for your friends today. And I understand completely how you felt yesterday. It is the most gut-wrenching, miserable feeling to think about losing one of your babies. And I pray everyday I never have to experience it.

Patricia said...

Shaken. I can’t help but have my eyes tear up and my nose start to tingle (ya my nose tingles when I am on the verge of tears. Weird.) when I think about losing my son or anyone that I love dearly. Or even thinking of friends losing their loved ones. My heart goes out to your friends in Michigan. I wanna run away from work right now and go to my son’s daycare and hold him so tight and never let go.
I love the frames with the artwork. I have 3 canvases on my wall that my 2 yr old son painted. Just random colors and they have no meaning to anyone else but to me, they are the most beautiful paintings I have ever seen!
Your girls are so beautiful and I really love your photography! Gorgeous Pictures.

Mama Marchand said...

My mama heart is broken right now, hearing about your dear friend's tragedy. I'm so sorry!

Your girls are so precious ... hug them tightly today!

Our Little Bubble said...

Taking a moment to hold my kids a little longer and a little tighter right now!! That might be the scariest thing about becoming a parent, loving so much and so hard and even the thought of something tragic or bad happening... breaks my heart.

XOXOX
Christa

Hannah said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your friend's loss. What a sad, scary thing. I believe that death leaves us all shaken, because it reminds us of the fragility of life. Over the summer, my little baby brother (who now has been diagnosed with Celiac Disease) swallowed something and was hospitalized. It turns out it was a little pink star sequin no bigger than a penny, yet that teeny craft item nearly cost him his life. That shook me deeply and caused me to cling to my Jesus. When we're shaken, we become so delicate and fragile, and the love of our Savior is all that can cause us to become whole. Moments of being shaken can be good, because they help us to see how much we are blessed with and they remind us of our desperate need to cling to our Savior. Throughout the pain, in the midst of the grit, He is good, and He heals. Even broken lives. Shaken.

Becky at lifeoutoffocus said...

I haven't commented in a while but this post truly shook me. It's so true and honest and real. I feel for your friends and pray for peace for them. You saying you ran out of starbucks to get home to your kids...I've been at work many times and have heard or read a tragic story and that's the ONLY thing I want to do too. You're right...the Unimportant has it's place in life too....but what's really important is our families and friends...the things that make our lives so grand.

I love all the pictures. Lainey is getting so big so fast...and that Nella is so stinkin cute. Everytime I see her little face I just say out loud "Aw Nella Bean!" So glad she had a great first birthday...looking forward to reading about when you go back to her birthing room.

Have a good rest of the week Kelle!

Early BIrd said...

I am so sorry to hear about your friend's loss. I will keep them in my thoughts and prayers. Your post gave me chills and made everything in my life seem so fragile....I stopped and hugged and kissed my four children. We are snowed in here in Northeast Ohio....my kids are doing "experiments" with a science kit they received for Christmas. Just as I was ready to scold them for making a mess, I read your post. I now have a dirty kitchen, happy and loved kids, and wonderful pictures to remember our messy, snowed in day TOGETHER. My kids are healthy, happy, and oh so loved. Thank you again for your moving post.

Jen said...

Such a terrible loss. Many prayers and thoughts for the family.

Three days before Thanksgiving, the Florida Jr. Everblades U-18 AA team, lost their 16 year old team mate to a terrible accident. I could not imagine being those 20 boys who stood as pillars of strength behind a mother who closed the casket that held her only son.

Much love.

Comeca Jones said...

:(

Maria said...

I could not imagine the depth of pain one experiences when losing a child. Prayers are offered, tears are shed, the gut wrenching anguish is shared by our whole human family. Peace to Aiden's family & to you, Kelle & your family. Prayers are with all of you.

Kathleen said...

Truly a mother's worst nightmare. So sorry to hear that story. My heart goes out to your friend and her family.

Kathleen said...

Truly a mother's worst nightmare. So sorry to hear that story. My heart goes out to your friend and her family.

Jodi said...

I live in Michigan and heard the tragic story on the news the other day. My heart sank for the family. It is just a reminder to cherish everyday, every moment for only God knows what tomorrow holds for us. I pray that the family may find peace in the mist of this difficult time.
‎"Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him." Psalm 62:5 (NIV)

sbudan said...

I've been following you for a couple weeks and love your openness and the positive lookout on life. This post really moved me. I have and 8 year-old, (and a 6) and am often thinking about the "what ifs." I also tend to get a little too caught up in unimportant things (which I am glad you agree they have a place once in awhile.) I am heartbroken for your friend. Thank you for this reminder about what really matters in life.

sbudan said...

I've been following you for a couple weeks and love your openness and the positive lookout on life. This post really moved me. I have and 8 year-old, (and a 6) and am often thinking about the "what ifs." I also tend to get a little too caught up in unimportant things (which I am glad you agree they have a place once in awhile.) I am heartbroken for your friend. Thank you for this reminder about what really matters in life.

The Mac's House said...

Prayers go out to you and your friends as you all grieve the loss of this precious child.

AliRae said...

Reading this, I couldn't help thinking of a quote by Annie Dillard from Pilgrim at Tinker's Creek.

"No, the point is not only does time fly and do we die, but that in these reckless conditions we live at all, and are vouchsafed, for the duration of certain inexplicable moments, to know it."

Hold tight to those inexplicable moments, hold tight to your littles, hold tight to the love that's woven all through your life. I think it's the only way to really know we're alive.

Your friends are in my heart and in my prayers.

MarkyDsMom said...

im so sorry to hear about your friends loss... it's so heartbreaking to hear about parents loosing children!
love the pictures btw... the sunset is goregous!

TRB Holt said...

The pain that your friend is going through right now grips my heart....I can't imagine loosing one of my children.

xoxo, Bug & Ruby's Gram

Looking Up said...

So terribly sorry for your friend's loss. I had a "What If" moment after my son's open heart surgery when he was only 3 months old. His heart & kidneys were failing, he needed to be reintubated & being a nurse, I knew that the drugs that the MD was calling for were of the emergency kind. In that moment, I thought, "What if my baby doesn't make it?" & I completely lost in a way that I never had before. Thank God, my son is doing well today, but the memory of that "What If" moment still brings me to tears. Praying that God gives your friend comfort & peace as I hug my own little guy a little tighter today.

The Full Nelson said...

I cannot imagine the devestation of losing a child. Brings me to tears when I look at my sweet babies and imagine the heart ache.

Not sure if you can answer this but where did you get the gorgeous quilt on the daybed??
sonjahnelson@hotmail.com

Disneyfan said...

My heart is breaking for your friend's family. That is my worst fear as a mother. To lose your children would be life altering to say the least. Thank you for the reminder to love our families bigger and better.

When I was diagnosed with epilepsy after my second child was born and the anti-seizure meds changed my personality and affected my ability to be the mother I wanted to be I was heartbroken. I read this quote that gave me hope:
"...sometimes God chooses to bless us and make us people of integrity in the midst of abominable circumstances, rather than change our circumstances." D.A. Carson
We may never have answers to life's big questions but God has a purpose for all things.

Hugging my babies a little tighter today.

In this life... said...

I too have had feelings of being afraid of the "what if's" and sometimes those can just eat you up. My faith in God helps me through those times of worries. I pray for you and I pray for your friend. We must live in the moment and cherish everyday...cause we never know what tomorrow will bring.

The Johansen's said...

My heart is heavy for your friends today. I will say a prayer and I will kiss, hold and tell my babies I love them a little longer.

I LOVE the pic of the sunset at the lake. I would LOVE to see that framed.

Jackie said...

I am so sorry to hear of your friend's loss. I can't even imagine. I love your writing. It always makes me sit and think! I love that!!!

Jessica said...

I am so sorry and very very sad for the loss of someone so little who had so much more life to enjoy and joy to bring his family and friends. Sometimes life is so unfair and yes it shakes us to our very core.

I like you have too often thought about all the horrible what if's and would like nothing better than to shelter my little girl in my home and never let her go any where with out me where I know she is safe, but in my heart I know she has to grow and prosper into an amazing adult and all I can really hope is that she is a kind, loving, caring, gentle woman.

Thank you for your blog and being so open as a mother for all the good times and bad times you are right there is a place and a need for both.

And side note I am planning my girls 5th bday so a gift card would be fabulous.

Your friends are in our prayers.

The Harvin Family said...

Oh amn that is so awful. God bless your friend and her family in this awful time. It's always hard to remember but this is when you are being carried, when there is only one set of footsteps.
Brought tears to my eyes today and a renewed sense of the important.

On a happier note - that photo of your girls cuddling is just to LIVE for! Love love it and I can't wait to see my big sister laying some love on her little sister just like that.

britneyds said...

Heartbreaking. Will keep this family in my prayers. Now ready to get home to my Swayze girl!!

Emily said...

Praying for your friend, Kelle. I can't imagine that kind of loss. Like you, it reminds me to keep my loved ones even closer and tell them I love them more often.

Kmarie said...

My heart literally stopped and I did not even know them. My little girl will be eight this year. We love our kids whatever year they happen to be- But as my children get older I am realizing each year added makes it TOUGHER to let them go- not easier. Their personality develop, they are that much more embedded into our soul- my heart absolutely shatters for that mother. I am praying for her strength and mental sharpness during this time.
I loved this post - it was filled with balanced wisdom. If every post was always frivolous and happy- I don't think I would be reading this- but you manage to embrace life while adding that needed serious side. This was probably one of my favourite posts. You have a way of putting things that seeps into souls ( Especially when combined with a few well done photographs.)
If tomorrow never comes...tell that someone that you love just what your thinking of...

Stunningly Sweet said...

My chest tightened a bit as I read your post. Sending prayers to the family whose precious boy is going to do great things in heaven. Leaving the dishes in the sink today, laundry can sprawl the floor...I'm snuggling my baby and giving my hubby the biggest welcome home kiss tonight. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Desiree said...

Your words just brought tears to my eyes. My heart aches for your friends family who lost their son. Because of you, today I will kiss more, hug tigher and hold longer my children. I recently found your blog and I am inspired by your words. Thank you.

Desiree said...

Your words just brought tears to my eyes. My heart aches for your friends family who lost their son. Because of you, today I will kiss more, hug tigher and hold longer my children. I recently found your blog and I am inspired by your words. Thank you.

Adrienne said...

I am sorry to hear the sad story of your friend. I think this rocks all mamas to the core. At the same time, your thoughts are beautiful and comforting.

Mary A-J :) said...

Loss is such a hard road to travel but as you said it does make you assess the important things. I will have your friends in my thoughts and prayers with many others. I love the photo of Lainey and Nella together on the bed. It reminds me of Pisces twin fish, my symbol.

Michelle said...

The balance between pain and love, shaking and mundane, enjoying and basking in every moment and sometimes forgetting.... I think that is the answer to it all. Thanks for the reminder. So sorry for the loss. Thinking of the family. xoxox

Jess said...

My prayers are also with that family. Reminders of how life is so precious and fragile really put things into perspective to me. I need to be more grateiful for what I have.

Stephanie said...

"And while pain does not flow well with what we all have in mind for our future and what we strive every to day to achieve, it is a part of this world and the great catalyst for challenging us to love bigger and better every day."

That sentence is absolutely LOVELY! I have an 8 week old little girl, and every days for the first week of her life I worried with the "what if's". They can be so gripping- but it truly is as exactly as you said, that pain and fear just drives us to be better and soak in every second of our lives, it drives us to BE PRESENT! Thanks for sharing.

My prayers are with your friends- it is so heartbreaking.

Marti said...

Wow. It sucks but we need reminders and it sucks even more when we have a personal connection to what ever the reminder is. I saw a picture of my friends brother that was in Afghanistan carrying a casket on Memorial Day, a day that I was wearing flip flops and eating BBQ. The picture made me sick, literally because my brother was getting ready to leave for Afghanistan. I've seen pictures like that on the news all the time but it didn't effect me as much.
http://martismoments.blogspot.com/2010/10/ultimate-sacrifice.html
Of course the song on my playlist doesn't exactly go with the post.

Rachel said...

So sad to hear about your friend's loss...I don't have children yet, so I can only imagine what that would be like.

Have you ever heard of StoryPeople? They have great little daily stories (usually a sentence or two) that they send out via email, or they are all on their web site...and they have pictures to go along with them. Sometimes they're sad, sometimes they're funny, sometimes they're deep and sometimes they're light, but they're almost always inspiring. You seem like the kind of person who would already know about StoryPeople, but on the off chance that you haven't heard about it yet, check it out:

http://www.storypeople.com/storypeople/Home.do

I thought of it because they occasionally have stories that deal with death and losing a loved one. There may be some inspiration to be found there to try and help your friend through her grief.

Mare said...

Shaken describes it perfectly. It is moments like that which make us truly appreciate what we have. So deeply sorry to hear about their loss.

Julie said...

I can relate to feeling shaken ... my father-in-law was diagnosed with Stage IV kidney cancer yesterday. And even this level of shaken forces us to quickly find a new "normal" where vacation planning and home improvement plans are put on hold for considering how to spend more time with Grandpa who is 4 hrs. away. Hugging my husband tighter and praying and hoping he's doing okay in his quiet processing of his dad's illness ... and knowing he'll talk to me when he's ready.

Tara and Nick said...

We are praying words of peace for your friends.

Ferguson said...

I am so sorry for your friends loss:( What a heartbreaking thing to go through! You and their family will be in my thoughts and prayers..

Babygirl said...

So sorry to hear about your friends loss. There are no words... Praying for all touched by this tragedy. Embrace each day to the fullest, "Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today.." -James Dean

Angela said...

So sorry to hear of your friend's loss. Tragic.

Shae said...

I really like this post. We do need the unimportant in our lives, too. I always want to take the time to enjoy the ordinary things with my new, first, & only son. This just made me think about it even more. Enjoy those beautiful girls!

- Jessi - said...

I'm so sorry for your friend, how awful. It makes me enjoy every second with my family, the good, bad, happy or sad. Your photos are beautiful. I always said Florida has the most beautiful sunsets. I adore the one of the girls in black and white, laying together. So sweet.

Stevie Leigh said...

Thank you for that reminder today. I, too, have faced the reality in my own life recently, and I am constantly driven back to what matters most. As I go through a day with an agenda of "Unimportant", I'll hug a little tighter and kiss a little longer.

Another beautiful post.

LeeAnn said...

Leave the mess and hug the children a little tighter today. An 8 year old angel will surely be watching. Sad news for your friends....in our prayers. xo

whitebite said...

tears falling..
how devastating.

Rachel said...

Thinking of & praying for your friends; what a terrible loss.

Riley and Tyler said...

Being shaken to the core, reminds you to wake up! Life is happening right this very moment with no time to waste. I'm so sorry for your friend's loss. When the storm eventually starts to pass and the clouds part to show the sun, I hope that they can absorb each and every ray of sunshine. Sending love.

jolie said...

Holding your friends up in prayer. Yes...I believe we will all hold our littles tighter and closer after reading this. I can't imagine...hugs and love and prayers to all of them.

Amy @ OurScoop said...

How devastating! One of my worst fears...losing a child or a close, close loved one to tragedy. I would have reacted to the news the same as you. Reminding myself to cherish the important and unimportant.

My thoughts are with you and your friends in Michigan.

M said...

Hy heart and Prayers are with you, and if there is somewhere I can make a donation in his name, please post it.

Valley Girl said...

Oh Kelle my heart goes out to you, Tom, Yvonne, Connor♥♥

I have a dear friend pregnant with twins who learned yesterday one is dying, she'll need to make a VERY big decision today....hurts inside and makes me hold my "little's" very close today.

Adoring you and yours...

jenniwaka said...

So sad...thinking of your friends

Eva Marie said...

My heart entirely aches every time I read a parent out lives their child. It just isn't the way it is suppose to be.

Something as innocent as going down a hill on a sled, life just sweeps in. My prayers are with this family and my arms are wrapped around my girl tight today.

Moonstonemama said...

My thoughts are with your friends and their family.

Katie said...

I feel like you wrote this post for me. I got news last night that shook me hard. I stayed up thinking about "what if's" for hours. Thank you for reminding me it is good to sometimes be shaken up in order to settle more solidly. I needed to hear that this morning. I will be praying for your friends.

Nikki James said...

Your words are priceless. My heart is with your friend today.

J Scheppl said...

Sorry to hear of your friend's loss, so very sad. My thoughts and prayers are with her and her family. Such a beautiful post.

Dana Jack said...

So sorry about you friend. Your post made me run and hung my kiddos very tight.

Rae said...

sorry to read about the loss of your friends son. 8 years old...goll son young and sledding ssomething we love to do.

Toni said...

Such a sad situation about your dear friends! The book Choosing to See by Mary Beth Chapman is an amazing story about keeping faith after the loss of a child! It's a must read, Kelle!

seamusmom said...

So heartbroken by the loss of that little boy. I have a son the same age. I hurt for that mama.

LindseyG said...

I am so sorry for the heart wrenching news. My prayers will be with you and friends family. It's a sad way to be reminded how much we love the people in our lives. You have such an amazing family to love and to be loved by.

I know why families were created with all their imperfections. They humanize you. They are made to make you forget yourself occasionally, so that the beautiful balance of life is not destroyed.
-- Anais Nin

-Lindsey

C said...

I saw the story about this accident on the news yesterday, and was heartsick for that family. I am so sorry to hear that this was someone close to you. I'll keep lots of positive thoughts for you & your friends family. What a terrible tragedy.

Elizabeth said...

Prayers for your friends. I know my daughter will receive plenty of extra hugs today. With the crazy Winter we have had here, I've been picturing the peace of a Florida sunset, and hope to get to one soon.

Katie said...

We heard about this on the news yesterday in Michigan...heartbreaking...

Rhonda said...

A child in a playgroup I had just started passed away suddenly due to complication with croup. I felt that same panic. The same need to never let my daughter grow. Feeling that devastation for someone I knew makes me remember to embrace everything--even the grumpy wretched days. It's all so beautiful and precious.

salonso said...

My heart aches for you and your friends. My family was shaken to our core over 7 years ago when my younger brother was killed in a car wreck. Since then we all seem to savior our moments more and hold on just a little bit longer.

When we hear about others who are shaken we pause and reflect.

Since having my daughter I always try to hold her longer after she has fallin asleep in my arms and tighter during the day. I try to treat each day as if it were are last, just because of what if's.

This post filled my heart and eyes with tears. My thoughts and prayers will go out for you and yours over the next few days.

The Caldwell Family said...

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Thank you for the reminder of how fragile our lives are. Recently as a family, we have dealt with medical problems and we have learned that in life there are problems and issues. Sometimes things we think are huge problems are only issues in comparison. My prayers are with your friends.

The Sanchez Family said...

This touched me deeply. Today is such a reflective day...Joaquin's birthday...and the tears are flowing. Thank you for the reminder that everyday and every moment whether big or small is meaningful and purposeful.

Tatiana said...

That is truly heartbreaking. Your friends are in my prayers <3

Staci said...

My deepest sympathies to our friend. Breaks my heart to hear about kids taken from this life to soon.

Lauren said...

My heart is broken for this family... What a tragedy. I'll keep this sweet family in my prayers.

cami said...

Sometimes I feel like I'm just waiting for the call.. waiting for the pain that is inevitably coming. This was a reminder of how precious and short life can be. I have 3 boys and the idea that any of them would perish this way is all too real in my world. I live in the "what ifs" but have to work very hard to not let it take over my existence. My very presence WITH my boys while they ARE still with me. Thank you for this post. I'm so sorry for your friends loss. I cannot even imagine being in her shoes. I'm breathing in my kids and saying a prayer for all of our children.

redheadreverie said...

So sorry to hear about your friend's loss. Comforting thoughts and hugs are being sent your way and theirs.

Hugging my boys a little closer today.

Heather said...

That is my biggest fear....something happening to one of my children. It is almost too painful and overwhelming to even think about it. I will send thoughts and prayers to Michigan from Pennsylvania!

Angela said...

Life isn't always to understand, just to live, and like you always say, to suck out the marrow.
Give those girls a big ol' Ft. Worth, TX hug. And know that you're loved.

Katie said...

Our little town has something in common with your friend in Michigan. We lost a daddy on Monday morning. A 38 years young man with two children (5K and 3rd grade) lost his life when hit by a car while he was jogging... God bless and keep all those who have lost a loved one this week. May we all meet again one day.

jadzias_momma518 said...

Hi there! I found this blog on Parents.com and when I saw it, I think I had stumbled upon it from a friends list. I just wanted to comment on how beautiful your girls are. So animated and so happy!

Shel said...

I live in Michigan and hadn't heard about this tragic accident. My heart breaks for your friend and their family and I will send healing energy and prayers her way. After having a child survive cancer, I know that I have changed the way I live a little bit. I saw too many friends lose their precious babies during Chloes treatment, and it broke my heart. We don't live with so many rules now...we try to live each day to its fullest knowing that for some tomorrow doesn't come. We don't waste a lot of time on what we "should" be doing, and more on dreaming big and enjoying life. Thinking of you guys

In the life of Nikki and Gary said...

How very sad. My greatest fear in this life is something happening to my little love. He is my world and I can't imagine him not being in it. I pray your friends can find peace and comfort in the coming years. Another reminder for everyone to slow down and take the time to cherish those you love. Life moves too fast... prayers and hugs!

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